Practice of a yogi mom #2

So here I am, 7 months pregnant with our second child. Quite amazing how time flies and how our life has changed already with another soul entering our lives. Evan is going to have a baby sister very soon!

When I wrote the first chapter of "practice of a yogi mom" in 2008, life had balanced out beautifully and I was very content to have found my true yoga practice. I experienced positive changes within my physical, emotional and spiritual approach to yoga and was very happy to see this process continue over the next year.

When Evan was 16 months old my Ashtanga Yoga practice was back to where I was before I got pregnant with him. In fact, my body and awareness of it had changed so much that I surpassed that level in a way that it felt smoother and easier. And much more full and aware than before.

On the day where I had one of those "aaahhh, Yoga feels sooooo good" moments and everything felt light and bright, I found out that a second soul chose us to be his/her parents. It was very surprising and very welcome news to us. Now that I am 7 months along there have of course been changes in my yoga practice again. In my first pregnancy as well as in this one I developed an over-flexibility in my pelvis and an instability in my hips. This is common in pregnancy and by now I knew what to do to eliminate and prevent pain: no ashtanga yoga!

This isn't an easy feat for me but I immediately developed a practice I could do. Unfortunately I was very very nauseous and tired the first 4 months and during that time my yoga practice was to sleep as much as I could and be as present with Evan as best as I could. It wasn't easy but I survived.

I still need more sleep than when not pregnant but most mornings I manage to get up before Evan and do a little routine that centers me and connects me to myself. The hip area cannot be stretched, instead it has to be strengthened. I do a few movements that stabilise the hips and build core strength. Some of them are pilates style moves but a lot is also found in Ashtanga Yoga: moola bandha and uddiyana bandha. I take this practice with me throughout the day and know from experience that it will help me bounce back fast after labour.

The rest of the body can be stretched but it gets complicated when you can't do anything from a standing position or when you can do no folding forward bends etc. A lot of movements end up going into the hips. So.....I use a technique called AIS - Active Isolated Stretching. A technique that Adarsh has studied thoroughly in the past years and which he has now included in his work with students/clients both one-on-one and in group sessions. You can read more about it here: http://www.smartstretch.com/

For me it has been an incredible tool to stay strong and flexible and to stay connected to my body on a deep level. I believe that a healthy happy body brings healthy happy children. Not that this is always the case but for me it's very important to be present in my body, to not get too carried away in the mind with the daily things but to feel balanced and connected. The AIS has given me this during a time where Yoga is not so easy. I can work specific muscles that need attention (in my case my neck and shoulders and my calves) and get rid of aches and pains from carrying Evan and carrying the belly.

I have also developed a modified seated half primary series sequence that I do on days where I have the time (not often) but I always do a few AIS stretches before. The two complement eachother beautifully and it brings me back to: "aaaahhhhh, moving and yoga feels soooo good!"

There will without a doubt be even less time for a yoga practice on the mat when our little girl has arrived but that's ok. Whatever I can do is great but my approach and attitude to the changes are much more important. With Evans arrival 2 years ago I found a whole new approach to what my yoga practice means and it has been the best change for me as a human being. With our little girls arrival there will be a whole new shift in how I practice yoga and I welcome the challenge and the change.

To all the yogi moms out there who struggle to find time for themselves and who miss their relationship with the yoga mat: everything is temporary! If you are open to adjusting your practice and your approach to it you will find that yoga is more than being on the mat. It may be that staying calm during another tantrum of your child is your yoga or taking a few deep breaths while he/she is playing. Yoga is there. Everywhere. Always.

Love Heleen

doing yoga

D came over and shot some yoga pictures for me

Halloween 2009. What a great time we all had, especially Evan was very excited. He and Ayesha charmed the neighbourhood.

Back on the blog....it's been a long time and lots has happened since Evans haircut. We said our goodbyes to Florida and the friends we made there on September 15 and headed back to California with way too much luggage. The flight was smooth and easy with a very happy and easy toddler on our hands (Evan rocks!).

Back in Palo Alto we were hoping that the house we were about to move into would be ready (they were doing complete renovations on it) but it wasn't so we had to stay put at our small home that was getting smaller and smaller it seemed with every day (probably because I was getting bigger and bigger ;-).

Finally after 4 weeks and a lot of hard work on our side as well the house was ready and we moved in. It's been 2 weeks now and we are extatic about our new home. This is our home and we feel so good about it. Our kitty felt at home immediately, Evan loves all the space and having his own room and we are just happy. We even have a seperate (beautiful) yoga/stretching room and lots of space in the garden. Ahhh such bliss.

In the past week Adarsh's uncle stayed with us to train me in a massage technique called Japanese Restorative Therapy and that was quite amazing. I enjoyed it very much and feel that I have found a new outlet for my talents and found talents I didn't know I had :-). It's so great!

So we've been busy rebuilding our Yoga teaching business here: http://www.ashtangapaloalto.com/ , Adarsh started his new AIS business: http://www.smartstretch.com/ , we moved house, I've become a massage therapist and all that while evan is growing steadily and our baby girl is developing inside. Lots has happened in the past month!!

But now I've finally managed to get some pictures together and here they are: a few of my growing bellie, some play at Carmel beach and Evan practicing for Halloween with his friend Aiden.

A little while ago I gave Evan his first haircut. He had developed a proper mullet as you can see in the pics. I cut adarsh's hair all the time but this one was quite different as I was pretty sure Evan wouldn't sit as still as dadda does. He turned out to be a trooper though and it worked out very well. The cut isn't perfect but it looks much better :-). It's almost time for a second cut because everything grows so fast with that little boy.

To the Beach

Due to the massive Coral Reef surrounding the islands, the beaches here are not exactly world class, but not completely lacking either. We live very near to the Founders Park in Islamorada(click here for pictures) which is a kids and family paradise. The small man-made beach has white sand and very shallow waters. Evan confidently wades out into the warm waters all by himself. The Park also serves as a marina where some folks are living on their own boats, an amazing skate park which reminds me of my own days on the board, Olympic pool, baseball and soccer fields, dog park and walking track round out the amenities.

The best beach in the Keys is Bahia Honda (about an hour drive). The natural white sands and views are postcard perfect and the waters are bath-like. Bahia Honda is a state park and has that park vibe: serene, clean, and quiet. For a journey to the other end of the spectrum, you must pay a visit to Miami Beach. Again, the sand, water, and views are gorgeous with added bonus of people watching, many of whom smoke which equals lots of (cigarette) butts in the sand. Ahhhh, there's nothing better on a hot, humid day than a refreshing cigarette!

Oh, the next time you see Heleen, you have to ask her about her Sunday afternoon alone on South Beach!

Eat!

The Upper Keys offer some really good restaurant selections. Being a vegetarian in a fishing community is not always as an easy fit, but it's no problem when you've got Num Thai! (no website, you can yelp! it) Whenever we are coming home from a day out in Miami, we hit up this tasty spot in Key Largo - I’ve gotta get my Panang on. And since they are sensitive to our vegetarian palates, everything on the menu can be prepared Buddhist style.

I should add a few more dining choices to #8. We have quite enjoyed the kid friendly Morada Bay (private beach for the kiddies and live music.) Recently, we enjoyed the art, ambiance, fantastic service and delicousness of Spanish Gardens Café.

Since we prepare most of our meals at home, we have not yet ventured out to the highly recomended Green Turtle or Kaiyo. Oh, and I should throw a shout out to the Midway Cafe (especially since the owner is now taking yoga.)

That's that for restaurants, if you want to really get your grub on, you simply must go out and pluck your own star fruit, lychee, or better yet MANGO!

Visit Yoga Friends

The yoga scene in Florida is really growing. Quite a few people were initiated into Ashtanga when Guruji opened the Shala here in Islamorada last year. And it seems like yogis all over the state from Tampa to Jacksonville, Orlando to Miami are getting hooked. We've met a lot of new yoga friends and have enjoyed hearing about traditional shalas and practice groups carving a path. The weather is certainly helpful. It reminds one of South India down here below the Coconut Line.

We have especially enjoyed visits with old yoga friends such as the crew from Miami Life Center and a day at the beach with Ashtanga Yoga Miami. I am very impressed to see the community that has grown and flourished around these teachers and shalas.

Due to the surge in popularity of yoga over the last 15 or so years of yoga in this country, it has allowed teachers and studios to "specialize" with different styles. It shows the maturity of yoga in Florida that studios dedicated to a traditional practice like Ashtanga can offer students an experience beyond a generic yoga class.

Road Trip

Road Trip!

Admittedly, one of my apprehensions in (temporarily) relocating to the Keys would be The Road. The “Road” refers to the Overseas Highway (Hwy 1.) that connects the Islands from Key West up to the mainland. Most of the Islands that make up the Keys are quite small. You could pet an iguana on the Gulf Side of our Island then walk the maybe two miles over to the Atlantic side and bathe your feet without breaking a sweat. (Well, you would break a sweat because it is Summer time and the temperature is rising. Luckily I'm native to this part of the world and feel a little iguana-like myself. My dear wife on the other hand is from Northern Europe where the only sun they see is on "holiday" in Greece.)

Landmarks here are determined by the nearest Mile Marker. Key West begins at 0 and goes up from there. When folks ask where we live, we say, "just off 88." That's 88 miles north of Key West. The Yoga Studio is at 82.3, less then 6 miles from the house. Luckily the nearest beach is at 86, so we could even walk or ride a bike.

We’ve gotten used to The Road. There is not much land here and one road is enough. Most people are traveling by water craft anyway. Occasionally the traffic backs up, usually when the Draw Bridge at (MM 84.5) is letting the big boats through. But that is the thing about the Keys, the speed limit is 45MPH and life is slow. When out for walks, we've had people stop and chat with us, real friendly like. We like that.

And who cares that the land mass is limited. People are here for the warm blue water anyway!

Overseas Highway from the air

Islamorada by beach

Vacation Home

I'll have to get back to my post on the "Florida Keys Top 10" as we have journeyed home to the Golden State this past week. The temperature has been 7o on the coast and 78 inland, no humidity....not bad!

We are only here for a week, though. We have been so graciously welcomed by friends here in the Bay Area and Monterey where we spent the weekend. I had the opportunity to teach a workshop in Salinas, always lovely there.

The only real negative is putting Baby through the travel. Our pediatrician told us he is in the "no-fly-zone" age of 1.5-2.5 years, no kidding...The up side is the he is universally adored by everyone he is in contact with, with the exception of fellow economy class air travelers...

With many social visits, yoga practices, and new baby meetings all coming to a close, we get ready to climb aboard the Great Bird for our Summer in Florida! I'll post my Top Ten very soon. We are officially online!

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Online (not quite)

Did you know that we have not had an Internet connection in our home for the past 3 months? This is unheard of for residents of Silicon Valley. Well, we are almost there. Since we are staying through the Summer here in Florida, we've put in our order with Comcast. Soon the equipment will arrive and we will officially connect with the outside world again. I can see it now. Buying those needful things from Amazon, little Huggie checking his email, Heleen updating her status on facebook and me posting blogs from time to time. In fact my next post will begin our Top Ten Things to Do in the Florida Keys

Stay tuned!

We've had quite a few adventures in the past months so I thought I’d put up some pictures:

Yoga Shala reception area

We made a spontaneous trip to New York to practice with Sharath in his second week there. I took the primary led and Adarsh the intermediate. That way we could swap Evan and it worked out Perfectly. We stayed at a hotel that was just a 3 minute walk away from where the classes were. For a family with a small kid it was the perfect hotel as it had a seperate bedroom. We could put Evan down for a nap easily and also at night we didn't need to tiptoe around being in the same room. It was all perfect and for me it was bliss to practice without interruptions for a couple of days.

Reading the Subway Map

Adarsh and I had both been to New York on several occasions in the past (before we knew each other) but this time it was all different with our little man with us. We went to an art exhibit of one of Adarsh’s favorite artists and visited a few of the known Yoga studios in town. Some touristy stuff completed the week beautifully and before we knew it we were flying back to Miami.

That same day Evan and I continued to travel to Holland to visit my family and friends. It was the first time for Evan to go over there and I was very excited. On the 10hr flight there Evan was THE baby on the plane that no-one wants on it. The poor little guy had the roughest flight ever, 3 flights in one day was just too much (doh!). But we finally arrived at the airport to smiling faces of my sisters who were soooooo nice to pick us up. From then on Evan adapted beautifully to his new circumstances.

Later that day he ploughed through my sisters garden and played with his friend Pelle who is my dear friends first son. Pelle was such a good boy in taking care of Evan. He has a small brother who is 2 months older than Evan so he had some good practice there. They had a good time together and Ihad a thoroughly wonderful time watching them.

Dutch kindren

Evan also took a special liking to his cousin Marieke whose hair he totally fell in love with. My little dutch boy already knows how to flirt well....

kissing cousins

The week went way too fast and soon we were on the plane back to Florida. This time we were pleasantly surprised by having an extra seat for Evan. The journey was much smoother and he was his old travelling self again.

Back home I was getting ready straight away for friends from California who'd arrive the next day for a visit for a few days. It was Evans best friend Jakey who came with mom and dad. We all had the best time. Off course we took them to our local beach where the two boys enjoyed the sand and the water, we had the best day out on the boat (although Evan wasn't so sure...) where we all snorkeled away and we closed the visit off with a fantastic diner on the beach. Perfect, little ones playing in the sand while we were enjoying good company and good food. We looooved having friends share our time here in the Keys.

Oh and talk about adventures...on my first day back from Holland I went to get something out of the car. I opened the door and felt something on my foot. I thought it was kitty as usual and tried to kick him off my foot. After a few kicks it didn't go away though so I looked down and saw a big snake crawling up my leg. I can't tell you how fast i kicked to get that thing off me but I surely screamed loud. Phew!!! Hope never to have that experience again.

Yesterday (Tuesday) was our day off and Adarsh, Evan and I went to a beach further down south which looks like a postcard. Evan is extremely comfortable in the water and wants to be his own man. He has no fear and just keeps walking in until he notices he’s gone too far. Oeps, busy times for us keeping him from going under ;-)

More to come soon…..

Heleen

Update from Florida

It is hard to believe that it has only been 6 weeks that we left California. We have had so many changes and adventures, where to start? I guess I should begin with the present and work backwards. I'm sitting on the front porch of our rented house all by my lonesome...Heleen and Evan have left two days ago for a trip to the Netherlands. I am a little jealous that I do not get to see Spring time in Holland through Evan's big eyes. I am not jealous, however, that I did not get to take the 8 hour flight....All reports say that the little fella did just fine.


They left on Friday which is the day that we all returned from a spontaneous trip to NYC for a week of yoga with Sharath. Wow, that was something! It had been years since either of us had been to Manhattan (first time for Evan). That kid fit right in though. He was making friends with everyone on the subway.


The yoga was good. I've always enjoyed Sharath's slow steady count through the series. And I got a lot of help, I guess I was looking a little stiff! Sharath gave a talk on Wednesday evening at the Sri Ganesha Temple. It was a inspiring discourse on the Guru tradition. I love to hear Sharath speak of his grandfather. He is so sincere. After visiting different yoga schools and guru's throughout India, the one thing that has always struck me about Pattabhi Jois and Sharath is certain elegance and integrity that is there. It seams so pure, so clean. We left New York inspired and grateful.


We have enjoyed the perfect weather in Islamorada. This is the part where you get jealous! We have been in shorts and flip flops everyday since we arrived. Most days the temperature is in the 70's. It has not been overly hot at any point and so far no bugs. Our cat has had a ball. He is chasing lizards, birds and the various wildlife. Dude, there are even wild iguanas roaming the streets. It was shocking the first time I saw one. I was leaving the yoga studio and out of the corner of my eye, I saw a creature run by. I thought to myself, "that ain't no squirrel..." When I went over for a closer look, I could not believe this giant iguana.It looked like this creature was on steroids - I mean he was ripped! Nothing like the lazy overweight iguanas that I've seen as pets. This guy was wild looking. Hopefully they do not eat cats...

According to my guide book, the Florida Keys has the largest coral reef in North America. That means this is the place for diving and snorkeling...and dolphins! Several people have told me that they have encountered pods while out boating. We visited a facility near the yoga studio where one dolphin got a little fresh with Heleen.


more later,

adarsh

Snowball

Enjoy the Slideshow (to the left) with Evan's first trip to see the snow!

a short walk

It's your Birthday!

Happy Birthday Evan! It's already been a year. And happy birthday to mamma too! You both did it...We all did it, we made it a year.

We tried to explain the "blowing out the candle" thing, but he didn't quite get it. Instead, my one year old tried to catch the fire....

This one is called "Baby's first sugar." He thought it was pretty good. The real fun is in cake sculpture. The boy is an artist!

Okay mamma, you try some

Christmas and out and about

Evan celebrated his first Christmas and wasn't so sure what to think of it...

Evan vierde zijn eerste kerst en wist niet goed wat hij ervan moest denken...

Who are you??
Wie ben jij??

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We went for a walk yesterday and since Evan took his first 10 steps in the morning we thought he should be able to stand on a stomp by himself as well. At first he wasn't so sure...
We gingen gisteren even wandelen en omdat Evan zijn eerste 10 stapjes had gezet dachten we dat hij ook wel alleen op een boomstronk kon staan. Eerst was hij er niet zo zeker van...

But then....
Maar toen.....